Jan
Homeward bound
Posted in Uncategorized | No Comments »“Did you go home for the holidays?”
This afternoon, I tried to figure out when people stop asking you that. My office opened today for the first time since December 23, and there was a lot of “Did you go home for the holidays?”
There are some problems with this. First of all, I’m assuming most people mean “your parents’ house” when they say “home,” and my parents live in a house they moved into a year after I graduated from college. Over the past 9 years, I’ve maybe spent a month there, if you put all my visits together. (More, probably.) Before that, they lived in Richmond. Because I was still in college when they lived there, it was technically my home and I was a resident of Virginia. But it never really felt like home, though I did spend an entire summer there, as well as school breaks. And before that was Montana, where we lived for the last two years of high school. It was my permanent home for a while, but it wasn’t where I grew up.
At this point, it really should be, “Did you stay home for the holidays?” Because my apartment is my home. I’ve lived in this general area (within, say, 10 miles) for the past 10 years. But, I guess because I’m not married, “home” is still presumably my parents’ house. I can’t imagine asking my coworkers if they went home for the holidays. Once you’re married, you have your own family–so you have a home. It’s assumed that I’m traveling for Christmas. I did host my parents and grandmother once, but that was it. And it’s not practical to host, I know; honestly, my apartment isn’t huge.
But you know what? It’s home.








